According to new research from Justin Wolfers and Betsey Stevenson:
The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness
By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well-being indicate that women's happiness has declined both absolutely and relative to men. The paradox of women's declining relative well-being is found across various datasets, measures of subjective well-being, and is pervasive across demographic groups and industrialized countries. Relative declines in female happiness have eroded a gender gap in happiness in which women in the 1970s typically reported higher subjective well-being than did men. These declines have continued and a new gender gap is emerging -- one with higher subjective well-being for men.
Don't you think happiness is very subjective?!
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Dear Azuriy, Assalamua'laikum,
My answer to your question; Yes! Happiness is very subjective.
I would like to share this story, with you Sis and other readers of this blog, and feel free to also pass to those who mean something to you, to those who you want to let them know that you appreciate their friendship. The story is about CONTENTMENT.
Have you ever, at any one time, had the feeling that life is bad, real bad, and you wish you were in another situation? You find life make things difficult for you and everything seems to go wrong... Read the following story... it may change your views about life and happiness:
After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking 2 jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is. I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, 2 daughters and the many bills of a household.
He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in India that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low and touring India after a major setback.
He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother chop off her child's right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the mother's eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4 year old child are haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty? had the child's hand been infected? No, it was done for two simple words- - -TO BEG! The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped
so that the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating half-way. And almost instantly, a flock 5 or 6 children swamped towards the small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from one another... The natural reaction of hunger.
Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumbfounded but willingly sold everything. He spent less than $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of bread (this is less than $0..25 per loaf) and spent another $100 to get daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed the bread and necessities to the children (mostly handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be able to have a complete body, have a job! , have a family, have the chance to complain what food is nice and what isn't nice, have the chance to be clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are deprived of...
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad? Perhaps... no, I should not feel bad at all... Maybe the next time we think we are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets.
"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the realization of how much you already have."
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that! we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
The happinest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past that you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
Well, quite long this time. I just don't want to miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day with this message.
Keep smiling Sis, Wa-i-lal-li-qa' was-sa-la-mah.
zu,
kebahagiaan dan kegemberian milik setiap insan... kita sendiri yang menentukan sama ada kita bahagia or tak... biasanya kita tak bahagia bila kita membandingkan diri dengan orang punya segalanya... sedangkan lebih ramai lagi orang yang tak punya apa-apa...
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